September has that familiar back-to-school feeling — a chance to reset, get organised, and begin again.
Even if your school days are behind you (and nobody is checking your homework), you can borrow some of that fresh-start energy as you head into offices, conferences, and professional events this fall.
Consider this your Human Connection supply list.
The practical essentials (yes, including pockets)
Start with the basics:
- business cards (or whatever your modern equivalent is)
- breath mints (a classic for a reason)
- a small notebook and pen
Yes, your phone can take notes — but writing something down feels more intentional. And it stops you looking like you’re checking email while someone is telling you their life story.
Then there’s the wardrobe. Choose something that suits the event, makes you feel comfortable and confident, and — this is important — has pockets.
A touch of colour or a memorable accessory can help someone find you again in a crowded room. When in doubt, go up one notch. You can always loosen a scarf or remove a jacket. It is much harder to invent one once you arrive.
But the most important thing you can bring cannot fit inside a pocket:
A willingness to connect.
The Human Connection reset: 3 small assignments
Schools are having more conversations about phones, artificial intelligence, and how technology affects the way students interact. Adults could probably use a refresher course too.
Technology makes communication convenient, but convenience does not always create connection.
So here are a few “small assignments” for this season — no final exam required:
- Say hello in the in-between moments Elevator. Coffee line. Walking into the room. The point isn’t to be brilliant — it’s to be human.
- Ask one thoughtful question and actually listen Try: “What’s keeping you busy right now?” or “What are you excited about this fall?” Then keep your phone out of your hands while they answer. (Wild concept, I know.)
- Write down one detail you want to remember Not for stalking purposes. For follow-up purposes. “Ask them about the new role.” “Send that article.” “Introduce them to Sam.” That kind of thing.
These actions may seem small, and that’s the point. Strong relationship skills are built through repeated moments of attention.
For leaders and event organisers (a gentle reminder)
For organisations planning fall conferences and company events: a room full of people does not automatically become a connected community.
Attendees often need a little encouragement — and a few practical tools — to introduce themselves, begin conversations, and make the most of their time together.
Whether you’re attending an event or creating one, approach this season with a student’s mindset: bring the right supplies, dress for the occasion, stay curious, and be willing to practise.
Your next meaningful professional relationship may begin with something as simple as looking up from your phone and saying hello.
Thankfully, there will be no pop quiz afterwards.
— Diane
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Diane Darling is an author, speaker, and entrepreneur. See Diane in action and learn more about her topics here. McGraw-Hill published her books, The Networking Survival Guide and Networking for Career Success, now in 9 languages. She published, "She Said It: A collection of quotes by remarkable women."
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